My bf(26M) and I(28F) have been dating for over a year. And I have been getting struck by these moments of intrusive insecurity about my appearance.
I think there are quite many factors affecting me, but first I'm just older than I ever was. Like, I'm seeing change in my face and body that shows I'm starting to age faster, which is honestly not the features that are welcome by beauty standard.
Secondly, it's because I think my bf is the best looking guy I've ever dated. Compared to any of my exes, he is objectively the most attractive. By this I mean not only in my eyes, but my female friends also proved this point. He is tall, in a good shape, and has a masculine and symmetrical face.
But I know for sure I am not the best looking girl he has ever dated. He has dated a lot more girls than I have even though he is younger, but it is understandable because he is conventionally attractive but I'm just meh. So I know there is a higher chance that I am not the best looking for him, but also I am sure because one of his exes was a MODEL.
I'm struggling to get over this feeling that whenever he sees me he probably isnt feeling as satisfied as before when he was dating a more attractive woman, and that he is just "settling" for me now for whatever reason.
Is there any advice or perspectice you can give me that I can use to work on this insecurity? Thank you.
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